The Silent Language We All Speak

Every day, without even realizing it, we have the ability to analyze the body language of others. For example, if a person is embarrassed, they will move their hands constantly, or if a person crosses their arms, we will assume that they are closed off. Conversely, an open posture signals confidence and security.

Body language is a universal language. We use it to communicate messages and connect with our environment. Analysis of body language happens as an inherent process of environmental assessment, often without paying conscious attention. Body language in others greatly influences our judgment – we tend to treat people according to what they convey to us.

Body Language in Nature

The basics of body language are found in nature. If you look at animals, because they rarely use verbal languages, their body language is the way they communicate with each other. Animals use body language to identify themselves as a threat. In order to show dominance, an animal will increase itself, stretch and expand, making it look threatening.

If we look at humans, we seem to be doing the same thing. For example, a victory movement of a person will be seen in the form of a V – we raise our hands in the form of a V toward the sky. Imagine Usain Bolt winning a 100-meter race; he feels powerful, he is unbeatable, and he unwittingly raises his hands in V-form while lifting his chin up.

Can We "Fake" Our Feelings?

Our body language affects us – it expresses our feelings and helps us visualize different situations. But can we manipulate our bodies using body language? The answer is yes.

Have you ever been to an important meeting, a job interview, or a fundraising pitch with an investor and gone out with a sense of missing out? You felt that you didn't express yourself well, you presented a negative side of your personality, you didn't say everything you wanted, and you just felt that you could have been better? It happens to all of us.

Achieving "Presence"

Our goal is to reach a state of "presence." Presence is measured by confidence, comfort level, and your enthusiasm and passion. A high level of these will bring you to a state of full presence – it will make you stand out, people will appreciate you, and most importantly, you will be able to control your emotions and feelings.

Presence is a state of self-control. We all know that we have encountered situations of discomfort, anxiety, or embarrassment, but now we have a tool to deal with these situations.

The Two-Minute Practice

As simple as it sounds, try it. Before a meeting or a crucial moment in your life, take two minutes to stand in front of a mirror, straighten your body, lift your head, and look yourself in the eye. Practice the victory posture – positions of power and strength. Imagine yourself in the moment itself, as you would like it to happen.

This practice will put your body in the desired state – you affect your brain with an image of the state you want to be in. Imagine yourself feeling energetic and relaxed when you are there, free from the fear of how others might judge you. Imagine yourself leaving the situation without regret, satisfied that you did your best, regardless of the measurable outcome.